Tazkirah and TV therapy

Pagi tadi tazkirah pagi pasal apa ek?

 

 

I have short memory nowadays. owh ok, ada hadith ni bunyinya lebih kurang:

 

 

"Macamana nak selamat? Selamat itu dengan menjaga lidah dan.... (ok tak ingat).."

 

 

So lessons learntnya bagi aku ialah, jangan banyak sangat cakap yang sia2 sebab walaupun kita ingat tak berdosa tetapi kadang2 boleh menjadi dosa. Contoh, "eh ko bangun malam tak pagi tadi?" "aku bangun malam" orang lain akan anggap ko riak. So secara tak langsung ko dapat dosa2 kecil riak tu ataupun membuatkan orang lain rasa rendah diri or rasa tak syok. Banyakkan menangis bila mengenang dosa2 kita... orang yang boleh menangis disebabkan dosa ni hatinya lembut...

 

 

Bagus tu. Aku ni bila time insecured, aku banyak bercakap. Padahal apa yang perlu aku buat ialah berzikir...

 

 

TV therapy.

 

 

For the first time malam tadi aku tak berapa focus sangat on Merlin.

 

 

The only lessons learnt yang aku ambik ialah waktu Arthur lost his father, he was depressed, sad and feeling unsecured of his ability to rule the kingdom. (feeling it right?)

 

 

His enemy thought by killing his father, it will break him into pieces, ruined his confidence level and jeopardize the rakyat trust on him to rule the kingdom. That's why the plan to kill the father was being carried out. Intensely. (this political moves started thousands yearssss ago rupanya).

 

 

Arthur was desperate to heal the father, so desperate that he resorted to using magic - things that was made illegal by his father and having magic can even lead to death sentence. (sometimes we are too desperate on fixing something we forgot about integrity or what we believe in - this is part of EI)

 

 

So he was obviously devastated and down when the plan doesn't work. At some level made him into believing that his father's decision was right (that magic is illegal and whoever has it need to be put to death) and he can never trust magic ever. This crushed merlin. He was hoping he could tell Arthur who he really is. That Merlin's magic so far helped to save Arthur's life. (how do we tell someone about the good of something when there is strong perception that is bad?)

 

 

(you know how sometimes you are with this burden of knowing something but you just can't tell anyone? like today, i am not sure what is going on. why my boss was asking his secretary to check on my salary? is he really thinking of leaving and want me to come with him? that was what he said the other night btw. or is he thinking that I am not worth the salary? or is he thinking(a lot even during his 2 days business trip) why am i still whining after all the good salary revision that I am getting? arghh it's killing me. what is going on? I am not sure if I am still going to be the subject of political move or something like that - it is not the best feeling ever right now)

 

 

Back to Arthur. After 1 day/1 night of getting depressed about his father's death, (he was actually spending the night alone with the body of the father. Merlin was secretly keeping his company outside the room) the next morning, Arthur appears with different attitude. More positive than last night. "Merlin it's a new day" he said. (Yes, grief about it but move on the next day. You need to grief. In page 107 of "Working with Emotional Intelligence" it states that - "Workers with integrity are frank and acknowledging their feelings". So if you are not acknowledging your feelings please question of your consciousness on the integrity part, it is well connected. In page 102 - "Those who kept journals (writing about their emotions after being laid-off - a case study) found new jobs faster than those who didn't. The more accurately we can monitor our emotional upsets the sooner we can recover from distress).

 

 

So there. One good example of wisdom from a TV show.

 

 

Have you watched "Miss Advised"? It is on Astro SWR if I am not mistaken. At first I thought it is just a crap women tv show. But last night episode was kind of interesting.

 

Btw, Miss Advised is about 3 women and they are "love or relationship professional adviser" whose work is about giving advise to others. But when it comes to their own life, sometimes they themselves did not use their own advise. Get it?

 

Pernah tak kita be so good in advising our staff, or friends about something but when it comes to ourselves we just ruled down our own consciousness and advise and kind of do our own new rules? So familiar right?

 

Basically I came into conclusion that, we just need to hear wisdom from someone else. It is much more powerful than listening to yourself especially when you are in the state of confusion.

 

So I am not going to feel guilty if I appeared to be shaken easily by something when I know sometimes what to do. I just need to hear it from someone else once in a while.

 

People might see that I am strong but I am not going to hide that I have weaknesses as well.